The day before I left for #FinCon12 (which, believe it or not, I’m still processing!) I had lunch with a very good friend. She’s one of my favorite people in the world. She heard earlier in the day that she’d have to go get a biopsy, which was both scary and sad. Her wedding is coming up in October, and she doesn’t want anything to go awry.
After lunch, I went back to work, where I immediately ordered flowers to be delivered the next day. The message simply said, “thinking of you, love you.” And that was that.
She got home late the next night, and texted me the following morning with her thanks.
I saw her the other day, and she said, “you know, I really appreciated the flowers, and the gesture was especially generous, knowing how frugal you are.”
I relayed this story to my little sister, who said, “well, really it’s not surprising. You’re not frugal, you’re generous. Or, if you are frugal, it’s with yourself. You save money on yourself so that you have a spare $40 if a friend needs a pick-me-up. After all, that’s what your money is for.”
That made me really happy to hear. It’s true, too. I like spending $10 on an outfit, and spending the savings on a birthday present or a dinner.
It’s also nice that my little sister, the only sister I have, and the person I talk to nearly every day, doesn’t think that I’m obnoxious about money. She knows I’m working toward my goals, and she reads this, but she’s also not all that surprised when I show up to her house on her birthday with a bag full of presents.
She’s right, too. Money is for spending… consciously. If I frittered away my income in Thai restaurants or whatever, I wouldn’t have it for other, more fun things. Spending without thinking leads to sadness, but consciously spending increases my happiness, and often, the happiness of those around me.